CUT the CRAP
In 1975 in his well celebrated book Medical Nemesis Ivan Illich said:
Medical nemesis is more than all clinical iatrogenesis put together, more than the sum of malpractice, negligence, professional callousness, political maldistribution, ...it is the expropriation of man's (sic) coping ability ....
The medicalisation of normality has long been recognised in sociological circles. Add in the 'do-gooders'of the past 40 or so years and we have a society that no longer knows how to cope. A child dies and the whole school is counselled; drug addicts do untold harm to family and others and we call them sick and in need of treatment; children throw tantrums and they have ADDH and require drugs; people receive a poor performance appraisal and they have been bullied and require stress payments; bastards set fires that destroy thousands of homes, lives and livlehoods and there needs to be more money to teach them it is wrong!!!
When will we wake up and shout down the noisy minority that want to define these people as sick and waste more money 'treating'them? When will we acknowledge that the overemphasis on child rights has resulted in kids not knowing how to cope when someone says 'NO'so they shoot up the school? When will we do less for the selfish - medicalised as narcistic personality disorder - and more for those who give their all to care and support, and live with honesty and integrity?
I had the cane at school; I had the stick at home; I was expected to get on and cope when my child died, to leave home and get a job in my early teens; to get over a cold without medical assistance and I am glad because I learned coping skills and I learned that it is WRONG (not sick) to hurt others and/ not make a meaningful contribution to society.
We have come to expect 24/7 happiness; all take and no give. Living, as opposed to being a parasite on parents and society, involves pain and learning ways of coping; it includes not having what we want and learning to adjust our expectations; it means being labelled lazy when we refuse to work; mean when we do not help others, selfish and greedy when we only care for 'me'.
People in their 80s and 90s lived through some of the worst conditions and learned to be the stoics they are today. What will be said of Gen X Y Z - well it may not be a bother because they will die from obesity or euthanasia because coping with pain is too hard and all about them.
The catlyst for this blog was seeing the devasting fires in NSW followed by do-gooders wanting more money to educate the poor boys who lit the fires.
IF we have spare money - and God knows I have paid more than my share of tax over the years - support those who support society (carers maybe) and those who REALLY have a disability.
Time to stop letting individuals misappropriate the 'sick' label and take responsibility for their actions.
Yarris, K. E. (2011), The Pain of “Thinking too Much”: Dolor de Cerebro and the Embodiment of Social Hardship among Nicaraguan Women. Ethos, 39: 226–248. doi: 10.1111/j.1548-1352.2011.01186.x
On to something here - if 'thinking too much' can be a cause of pain how about trying to think when the brain is damaged as in dementia. I can distinguish between headache and brain pain and have argued that cognitive (brain) pain is quite different to pain related to muscle tension; raynauds of the brain circulation (my diagnostics) a head trauma etc.
So often we hear people of good will say "I treat them as I would want tot be treated'. Other people may not share your values or choices so think about it and treat them as THEY want to be treated. This requires you to really connect and learn what 'they' value and want.
Time is a fascinating construction
it can pass quickly or take forever when you face obstruction
It is talked about like a possession: 'I don't have time'
An excuse; an obsession: 'If I only had time'
We can 'Make time' or 'Take time' or 'Waste time'
or 'Steal a few minutes'...'Spend time'
Perhaps it is only when we face the possibility or reality of death or dementia that we realise time is now and now is everything, every experience every thought, every learning, every relationship that situates us
Time does not 'run out'; it IS
Who we are, what we do, the way we are in the world influences how we and others experience time now and maybe in 100/ 1000 years. Scary thought? Amazing opportunity?